For most of my life, I had no idea I was living from a place of codependency. I was exhausted, caught in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and a desperate need to be good enough. Like many of us raised in systems built on patriarchy, capitalism, and colonialism, I was taught that my worth depended on what I could produce and how well I performed for others.
I spent years contorting myself to meet expectations that weren’t even mine. I played the role of the peacemaker, the fixer, the one who knew how to hold everything together. Until I couldn’t.
When I finally understood how deeply these patterns had shaped my life, I started the process of untangling myself from them. It wasn’t easy. It still isn’t. But it led me here—to a way of living, working, and supporting others that is rooted in authenticity, reciprocity, and freedom.